Hey all I’ve had so much inspiration today I’m in process of writing a big blog from an interview from a friend in Australia his story is amazing and inspiring and I’m hoping to complete it by the weekend. He has sent me alot so far but he’s working hard and different time zones kinda makes it difficult but we shall persist. So i want to say thank you to Bell, for providing an in sight into his life, and i hope to god i can do him justice and i hope you lot enjoy his life story. I hope you can all say thanks to him too when it complete as its not easy for someone to open up like he has and I hope he inspires you as he has me.

I also hope my blog inspire as well as entertain, but I’m hoping I can get more interviews soon. If I get more or if any of you peeps want to inspire just let me know and we can sort something out, and obviously you dont have to reveal what you dont want to.

So with inspiration in mind, I just want to tell you all that your all amazing even if i dont know you, your getting through life one way or another and thats an amazing feat these days. Life is never easy and it comes with its own challenges for everyone in all sorts of shapes and sizes. All you have to do is live life to the fullest, and I’m telling you from now on I’m going to be doing just that. I’ve been through some shit in my life, like many other people and yes I’ve been to depressionville but got through the other side a stronger person, and to get past that there was one thing I was told a long time ago, and I’d like to pass that message along to you, no matter whats happening in your life or how bad it’s become just remember there is always someone worse round the corner. Yes life may seem shit at times but you will get though it, just never ever push your loved ones away they want to be there for you, your real family and friends will always be there.

But with that in mind always be mindful never let anyone take advantage of you. I had exs leave me in shit and i mean mentally and financially, I was left in a lot of debt (20 grand worth) and still paying for it now. Trust me not every one is a friend and and there are people who take the piss out of you and you walk away with nothing, twice thats happened to me, twice i was robbed of my life but starting fresh has it advantages. Even though I don’t have a posh car or my own house (im living in a shared property at the moment £50 a week rent and i spend about £10 a month on electric) and i dont have alot of money, I’m still happy and i now reach payday with money still in my back pocket and i get what i need. I dont live beyond my means and I limit myself and one day I’ll have myself debt free and I may be lucky enough to buy myself a new car, but this is the thing I’m happy I took back control of my own life and I have 2 cutest kids ever (one I see and speak to every day the other ive not seen in over 8 years, but thats complicated, yes another hint to another blog in future).

People dont realise/recognise men get abused too and not just physically, theres a broad spectrum, women or gay man can Verbally abuse you, belittle you, or humiliate you in front of friends, colleagues, or family, or on social media, be possessive, act jealous, or harass you with accusations of being unfaithful, take away your car keys or medications, try to control where you go and who you see, try to control how you spend money or deliberately default on joint financial obligations, make false allegations about you to your friends, employer, or the police, or find other ways to manipulate and isolate you, threaten to leave you and prevent you from seeing your kids if you report the abuse. A number of these things happened to me believe it or not, but I was strong enough to walk away. Dont get me wrong women alsosuffer at the hand of men but its less noticed when its a man being abused because a man wont talk about it “its not manly enough to admit being abused by a woman” I’ve been told that by some men and i used to think that myself thats why they got away with it for so long. Its hard for me to talk about it but its true it happened to me and it could be happening to your best friend, the signs are there but they wont admit it. its harder for a man to admit it, Ive also been on the end where i was falsly accused of being the abuser. They may not have gone to the police but they told their friends and family that i did to them what they did to me. It happens both way but there is always help out there for men and women in these situations, people just need to make a stand and take back control of their own lives. Reach out to a friend or pull your family member aside when you visit, or when at work speak to your boss or supervisor or a fellow collegue. Remember the abuser wont do it in front of others they will always want to look like the perfect partner. So you do have chances, all you need to do is find the courage and take a leap of faith. I did and i got myself free YOU CAN TOO!!!

Ok I’m going on and on now but i couldn’t stop myself once i started but i get passionate sometimes. But oh shit i went all out here sorry guys.

Thank you for reading and sparing some time for me once again.

THEPLAINANDSIMPLEGUY

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